On my parents unit there was a variety of patients – some quite young and getting physical therapy for like a healing knee operation. I would assume the nursing home (also doing rehab/physical therapy) would have, if not be required to have, a crash cart; a plan and measures to deal with these non-elderly patients in case of emergency. I don’t understand why that plan was not afforded to my parents. I suspect it was either a nursing home decision or most likely a DNR ( do not resuscitate) order instituted by brother Mark (the legal guardian.) He had previously done this while Mom was in the hospital. To my knowledge (from my Mom) while she was in the hospital she was never told she was eminently terminal nor was I ever told. She was never asked if she wanted a DNR order until I saw the DNR wristband on her and asked her. She said “absolutely not”.
When Mark had put the DNR order on my mom when she was in the hospital, she was on a general ward recovering; getting stronger; walking; talking; etc. Why or how this DNR order was not only condoned by the hospital, but even considered? It was like my brothers wanted to get rid (let her die from a potential cardiac / respiratory arrest instead of being revived) of my mom ASAP. I think this displays the power legal guardians have and a power that is loosely regulated; rarely monitored by “appropriate officials.”
I think at this point I’ll stop. I’m drained and my mom’s story is basically over.
I’d like your input whether I should eventually resume writing and tell my dad’s story (with photos) – a story of a man who grew up in a “broken” home; raised by his grandparents (his grandfather a drunk); very poor; worked his way thru high school; college; med school; served as a medical officer in the Army for four years during WWII and almost two years in field hospitals in Europe; came home; provided his wife and four sons with a good life; and his reward: forced into a nursing home. A brilliant mind left to rot and turn into mush.
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